Fathers - Stop diminishing their role
In today's world we seem to have things very backwards. We discriminate against men and tell them how unimportant they are, and that they are only important when they are bringing money in, besides that they should stay out of the way. However, we are encouraging woman to leave the home and to embrace manly habits and careers, and telling women to lose their femininity. Both of these are dangerous misconceptions that are not healthy for the family.
In class this week we discussed the dangers and downsides of having a two-income family. In the beginning, it might sound great. But there other variables we need to keep in mind.
Here is an example. A families father was bringing home $42,000. The mother decided she wanted to go to work to help bring in some more money and help provide. Her income was about $22,000. Now this sounds great at first. But there are new expenses we need to add, due to the mothers absence in the home.
1. If there are children, she's not there to care for them, so they now need to pay for child care.
2. The parents most likely due not work at the same place or even in the same general direction, so there are added transportation prices for the mother to get too and from work.
3. Because the mother and father are both working, they are more likely to come home tired and not have the time or desire to make meals, let alone do the grocery shopping, so they will most likely eat out more, causing the food bill to rise drastically, in most situations like this the food price actually doubles or more.
4. Depending where the mother has chosen to work she may need to add a uniform or more professional dress to her wardrobe, adding clothe expenses, and she may want to put more effort into her appearance depending on the job leading to added makeup costs and the like.
5. Since the parents aren't home they want their children to still have fun and be involved in things, so they may sign them up for more extracurricular activities so their children can still have fun, adding more cost.
The list could go on longer and longer, especially depending on the family and their needs and desires. However, this family asked an accountant to help them see if how their income had improved. With the husband making $42,000, and the wife making $22,000, and the new added expenses listed above, they were only bringing home $40,500. So their actual income had decreased, despite her efforts and all she was doing at work. On average the second income of the family will only bring home $1 for every hour of work.
But that's not all. Typically a full time job takes 40 hours a week. However, that does not include the transportation time, the time it takes to get ready in the morning, or to get things all closed down and shut off before leaving work, and it doesn't include the overtime you work for taking someones shift or for staying to work extra hours on a project. So if we add that all in, it's more like the working parent is away from home about 58 hours a week. And for the time they are home, it is usually near bed time for everyone else. Working is a wonderful thing, we need to bring income home to provide for our families. However, the way the world pushes us today is someone detrimental to families.
If we take a look back at our history, husbands used to work with or near their families, or from the home until around the 1800's when we had the industrial revolution. Yes, even before that families struggled and had problems, but since the Industrial Revolution, fathers have not been working from home or near home, and family structures are getting weaker and weaker. Our men do a great deal for us, they go to work all day, even if they don't want to, just to try and provide for the family. Because that is what we tell them they are good for. When in reality, when a Father is in the home it decreases several risks for children.
In homes without Father's the daughters tend to be more sexually active, and the risk of drug abuse and alcohol rises. The risk of going to prison rises. The risk of suicide rises. Basically, all the negative things we don't want for our children rise if there is not a Father in the home. Yes, a Father is called to provide for his family, but not just money, he provides love, comfort and safety as well. A Father is also called to preside and protect his family. But he cannot do that to his full potential if we keep forcing them out of the home.
Sources:
Fatherhood.gov
https://www.dailywire.com/news/27586/fatherlessness-amanda-prestigiacomo?utm_medium=email&utm_content=022718-news&utm_campaign=position3
https://www.dennisprager.com/does-a-full-time-homemaker-swap-her-mind-for-a-mop/
https://www.deseretnews.com/article/765556846/Staying-at-home-How-to-downsize-from-dual-to-single-income.html
https://magazine.byu.edu/article/family-work/
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/2007/09/one-for-the-money?lang=eng
In class this week we discussed the dangers and downsides of having a two-income family. In the beginning, it might sound great. But there other variables we need to keep in mind.
Here is an example. A families father was bringing home $42,000. The mother decided she wanted to go to work to help bring in some more money and help provide. Her income was about $22,000. Now this sounds great at first. But there are new expenses we need to add, due to the mothers absence in the home.
1. If there are children, she's not there to care for them, so they now need to pay for child care.
2. The parents most likely due not work at the same place or even in the same general direction, so there are added transportation prices for the mother to get too and from work.
3. Because the mother and father are both working, they are more likely to come home tired and not have the time or desire to make meals, let alone do the grocery shopping, so they will most likely eat out more, causing the food bill to rise drastically, in most situations like this the food price actually doubles or more.
4. Depending where the mother has chosen to work she may need to add a uniform or more professional dress to her wardrobe, adding clothe expenses, and she may want to put more effort into her appearance depending on the job leading to added makeup costs and the like.
5. Since the parents aren't home they want their children to still have fun and be involved in things, so they may sign them up for more extracurricular activities so their children can still have fun, adding more cost.
The list could go on longer and longer, especially depending on the family and their needs and desires. However, this family asked an accountant to help them see if how their income had improved. With the husband making $42,000, and the wife making $22,000, and the new added expenses listed above, they were only bringing home $40,500. So their actual income had decreased, despite her efforts and all she was doing at work. On average the second income of the family will only bring home $1 for every hour of work.
But that's not all. Typically a full time job takes 40 hours a week. However, that does not include the transportation time, the time it takes to get ready in the morning, or to get things all closed down and shut off before leaving work, and it doesn't include the overtime you work for taking someones shift or for staying to work extra hours on a project. So if we add that all in, it's more like the working parent is away from home about 58 hours a week. And for the time they are home, it is usually near bed time for everyone else. Working is a wonderful thing, we need to bring income home to provide for our families. However, the way the world pushes us today is someone detrimental to families.
If we take a look back at our history, husbands used to work with or near their families, or from the home until around the 1800's when we had the industrial revolution. Yes, even before that families struggled and had problems, but since the Industrial Revolution, fathers have not been working from home or near home, and family structures are getting weaker and weaker. Our men do a great deal for us, they go to work all day, even if they don't want to, just to try and provide for the family. Because that is what we tell them they are good for. When in reality, when a Father is in the home it decreases several risks for children.
In homes without Father's the daughters tend to be more sexually active, and the risk of drug abuse and alcohol rises. The risk of going to prison rises. The risk of suicide rises. Basically, all the negative things we don't want for our children rise if there is not a Father in the home. Yes, a Father is called to provide for his family, but not just money, he provides love, comfort and safety as well. A Father is also called to preside and protect his family. But he cannot do that to his full potential if we keep forcing them out of the home.
Sources:
Fatherhood.gov
https://www.dailywire.com/news/27586/fatherlessness-amanda-prestigiacomo?utm_medium=email&utm_content=022718-news&utm_campaign=position3
https://www.dennisprager.com/does-a-full-time-homemaker-swap-her-mind-for-a-mop/
https://www.deseretnews.com/article/765556846/Staying-at-home-How-to-downsize-from-dual-to-single-income.html
https://magazine.byu.edu/article/family-work/
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/2007/09/one-for-the-money?lang=eng
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