Homosexuality - Fact or fiction?

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    We live in a confusing world, where anyone can claim to be anything they want. Where marriage and relations no longer follow tradition. What has now taken the place of marriage between a man and a woman? Marriage to the same sex. 
    Many claims have been made over the past few years that people are born homosexual. This is a myth. Homosexuality is a real thing, and has effected many. But the statement that one is born homosexual is a false claim. 
     After doing study this week I found many interesting articles and a fascinating video, with homosexuals explaining their personal experience. The way to becoming truly homosexual is confusion in the mind, due to difficult or traumatic experiences. 
    Just as teen girls without a father figure tend to have sex before marriage because they are looking for something to fill that need for the missing male figure in their life, males tend to be homosexualy  attracted to men, in order to fulfill that missing need for male figures in their life. 
    Boys that have suffered trauma or bullying often feel extreme confusion, and frequently do not have good relationships with their fathers. This leads them to have the need for a male figure in their life, which confuses their brain, convincing them they are attracted to men. 
    However, when these men were asked if they had the desire to get involved in sexual behavior with other men, they said no. Their desire was to fit in, to find their place. Which led them to find men attractive, but not necessarily romantically desire them. 
    Something people may be asking themselves is; if the reason behind their homosexuality is a form of neglect and feeling different, can they change? The answer is yes, absolutely. Many of these men share their testimonies of how they changed and they began to be attracted to woman and how good it felt.
    What helped them to change? It was the mere fact of them getting help, meeting with a counselor, looking back at why they felt the way they did. But another huge factor, which has contaminated our world in many ways, is pornography. They stopped the pornography problem, which helped them regain their reality, and what they really wanted. 
    This may be an unpopular opinion and view point. But the facts show it is the truth, and I have personally seen this in my own life. Growing up I had several friends that were gay or lesbian. I didn't hesitate to ask them questions or their view point. I didn't understand why they felt the way they did and I wanted to know. 
    Looking back, many of my male friends that claimed to be gay, were the misfits. The one's that didn't fit in or that were severely bullied. When I would ask them why they were attracted to men and what they hoped for, their response was never sexual. Their response was most often, "I just want to fit in and know my place." One particular friend that was gay had a massive pornography problem. They had been going to a great deal of counseling for it, and they said this to me. "I never realized how polluted and confused my mind really was. I had such angry and bitter feelings towards my dad that I never realized it was what first caused my confusion and attraction to men. Once I started feeling that way for men I couldn't stop looking at porn and trying to find pleasure with myself, it became so addicting. But then I finally started getting counseling, because of my mom. And I realized I needed to change. I'm still healing and I still struggle, but it feels so good to be free of pornography and to feel like I can be normal, like I feel the way I should and want to feel about woman." 
     Gays and lesbians are very misunderstood, even by themselves. It isn't about feelings sexually attracted to the same sex. It goes much deeper, it's about the past, and feeling alone, and different. Feeling the need to fill in those empty gaps and find our place. They're not people to be fixed, but people to be loved, people to be healed. 

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Sources:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jJhyzqdzpnM
https://www.acpeds.org/normalizing-gender-dysphoria-is-dangerous-and-unethical?utm_source=email+marketing+Mailigen&utm_campaign=News+8.10.16&utm_medium=email

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